I remember back in the 1980s, the best way to find a lady living in the Philippines was to join Cherry Blossoms Introductions in Hawaii and become a member. You were then sent a list of photos and addresses of interested Filipinas for you to begin writing. That was before the computer age making it easier to find an Asian woman a and it was slow going in corresponding with ladies in the Philippines. No email back then, only airmail! I am not promoting Cherry Blossoms but it is still around today, only now with a large website and a data base of more than 75,000 Filipinas. There are also hundreds, if not thousands, of similar Filipina online dating sites today. However, Cherry Blossoms has been around for about 30 years or longer and I still hear Filipinas talk about them in conversation, as almost everyone knows someone who met a foreigner there.
To Join Or Not to Join?
Personally, I think as long as the guy has an open mind and knows the pitfalls of participating in an online Filipina dating site, they will be just fine. It is actually a good idea if you have never met a Filipina, chatting online is a good start, as you can experience the attitudes and characters of many of the local ladies.
Beware and Be aware! There are many scammers on all these dating sites and it is actually a very lucrative business for some of the real pros! They chat with 10 or more foreign men and each one of them are sending her money and gifts every month. Some of the woman are married with children and they haven’t any intentions of meeting a foreigner in person to develop a relationship. Please keep in mind that for one to be scammed on these dating sites, they must be a willing participant. If you send money to people you never actually met and to those you do not really know well, this is very risky behavior. Some expats think that by sending money, they are buying a partner but it does not work that way. Whoever arrives in the Philippines first and is most impressive in person usually wins the heart of the woman. After all, it is common for a lady in the Philippines to have many different foreigners who she chats with on a regular basis, which is often everyday. The Filipina is not actually scamming the guys but remember this, as I emphasize once more, the first guy who actually comes to the Philippines to meet her in person, often wins her heart!
The Best Way To Meet A Fabulous Woman
Hands down, the best way to meet a lovely woman in the Philippines is to be here live and in person. Go out often and do not be afraid to talk to ladies who seem interested in you. Some expats have very high standards and if the lady does not reach his bar, he does not waste his time carrying on a conversation. A big mistake in my opinion. I am not advising to lead any woman on and in fact, this can be hazardous to your health here in the Philippines but dating here is not the same as marriage. I have known a number of expats over the years who married very beautiful women in the Philippines, and had a quick marriage only to have the marriage became a living hell! Once getting to really know their wife, the midnight confessions reveal a nightmare!
Most guys want to marry a beautiful lady but once you get to know her, she may not be beautiful on the inside as well. As love develops between two people, the attraction and outward appearance often becomes more beautiful than on first glance! Love grows beauty and handsomeness.
I have touched on dating bar girls before. Yes, most are fun to be around. I am not referring to prostitutes but women who work in bars, often dancing for the entertainment of men. There are two kind of bar girls in the Philippines. There is the life style bar girl and the situational bar girl. One is a pro, a hustler and always will be, while the other is only working in the bar because it is a job and much needed money to help support her parents and siblings. If given another option and a much better option, she not only leaves the bar but the bar leaves her..forever!
I am a very faithful guy to my wife. When I go out shopping alone or to different places around the city for personal business, it almost never fails that an attractive local lady strikes up a conversation with me. If I were a single guy, I would ratchet up the conversation and have a lunch, dinner or movie date in no time! Just like anywhere else in the world. Church is another excellent place to meet a lovely lady.
Yes, I am a happily married guy to a very wonderful Filipina wife, whose beauty is unmatched in the 7,000 islands of the Philippines. Inside and outside. Other guys may disagree but their opinion does not mean squat to me! I am fabulously happy everyday in my life, with my wife, and our lovely son.
If you are single and retired to the Philippines, as long as you are a good guy with manners, meeting a lovely local lady for dating will not be a problem. Chances are, the relationship will bloom and you will finally find your lifetime partner in the Islands of Paradise!