Welcome to the world of dating Pinays, some of the most beautiful and caring women on the planet. I’ve been married to a Filipina for 2 years now and life has never been better. In fact, several of my friends have decided to come to the Philippines in search of their own Filipina girlfriend within a few months of meeting her when I took her home to meet the family.
I’ve tried to taper their enthusiasm with a healthy dose of caution – not every woman here is the same as my wife! There are good and bad girls in The Philippines, just like anywhere.
Thinking about how to best advise them and answer their questions about how to meet a Filipina got me wondering – why don’t I just write an article explaining the top points of what I’ve learned after 10 years of dating in Asia?
So, that's exactly what I did. Here are 5 tips to give you the greatest chances of success when dating Filipinas online.
Meet Filipinas Online – 5 Crucial Tips
1. Take Your Time
This might be stating the obvious, but you’d be surprised how many men sign up for a dating website to meet Filipinas online, who ticks all their boxes, and dives right in without a thought for the morrow.
Love is love, and when it strikes there’s very little you can do. One thing you can do, however, is let time do what it does best and give you some perspective.
The reason for taking your time are twofold.
First, those crazy brain chemicals that have you all over the place, eager with anticipation to fly directly to the Philippines and meet your new lady friend will calm down and level out and think about things clearly.
Second, you need at least 6 months to get to know someone well. I think this rule applies to dating anyone, anywhere.
The rules of online dating are the same as the rules of dating in the real world. Remember the old saying when dating Filipinas online – ‘Wise men say, Only fools rush in!’
2. Be Realistic
If you’re 58, have a pot belly and a few missing teeth, albeit with more than a smattering of charm, recognize the warning signs when a 19-year-old model caliber lady is interested in you. You must be honest with yourself and honest with the woman you will talk with while trying to meet Filipinas online.
Sorry to take away your ego enhancer, but if you go down this rabbit hole you’re entering a world of hurt. Why is she interested in you when she could easily take her pick of younger men who know the name of Bieber’s latest hit song? You’ve got to be aware that there are lots of very poor, very desperate girls in this country who will do almost anything to survive, including rinse a sucker like you.
Let me be clear: NOT ALL FILIPINA GIRLS ARE LIKE THIS – FAR FROM IT! I’m not being a racist, a misogynist or a prick for saying it. It’s a sad fact of life and I’ve known guys who have been taken to the cleaners in a haze of love and emotion. I don’t want the same happening to you in your quest to meet Filipina girls.
Set realistic expectations for yourself and always ask ‘What’s in this for her?’ Understanding her intentions is a key part of successfully dating.
3. Look at Her Profile History
Before I settled down and got married I admit I to was interested in finding out how to meet Filipinas online. During this period of my life, I learned to spot the girls who lingered for a little too long on those sites, and I began to learn that this meant one of two things: she is a serial dater or she has problems and moves from one guy to the next rapidly.
This is another reason for taking your time and getting to know both the site you are using and any ladies you talk to on there.
Be especially aware of ‘Off-On’ profiles. These are ladies who repeatedly delete and reopen their dating profiles. This should ring alarm bells in your head and cause you to ask yourself ‘What’s she up to?’
3. Meet Her in the Philippines
When you do find a fantastic woman who you really could fall for (oh, you will, believe me), at some stage, you will need to meet her to move things forward.
Start with video chats on Skype. This is much better than texting when it comes to getting to meet Filipinas online.
Eventually, however, you’ll want to meet face to face. Coming to the Philippines is a great idea in and of itself. This is one of the most beautiful countries you’ll ever visit, and coming to meet a love interest is just the icing on the cake.
Meeting your lady friend in the Philippines is also a good idea because it will allow you a great insight into her, who she is, and her culture. There are actually many different cultures within the Philippines, so getting to know her city, her island, family and individual quirks is best done here in her home country.
Besides, you coming to the Philippines is much easier with regards visas, travel costs, and other associated factors.
You’ll be glad you did, whether you decide to move things forward or not!
5. Give Her the Benefit of the Doubt
Dating Filipinas online is no different to dating any woman from a totally different culture. You’re going to have misunderstandings and assign meaning to things where there is none. This can lead to communication problems and a breakdown of the relationship.
Always give her the benefit of the doubt and try to see the best in these situations. What you think her actions mean could be totally different in reality.
Of course, there are blatant warning signs (such as asking you to send large sums of cash to her), but there are lots of little cultural mannerisms, expectations, and norms which it would be a shame to let get in the way of a burgeoning relationship.
The best way to deal with these is to seek to understand. If something doesn’t seem right to you or has you scratching your head, try talking to your love interest and asking her about it.
Opening direct lines of communication and seeking to understand one another can only help you decide whether you’re right for each other or not. This is especially true in cross-cultural relationships.
Meet Filipinas Online Summary
If you meet the right Filipina online you’re in for what could be the most rewarding relationship of your life. I’ve never met a woman as caring, attentive and genuinely happy as my wife, and I would love everyone to find the same in their partner.
Remembering the 5 tips above will set you on the right track and let you go in with your eyes open.
Best of luck in your quest to meet Filipinas online!